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naz's avatar

I’m new here, and I just want to say how much I loved this. The way you talk about growth as something quiet, uneven, and still meaningful feels so grounding, especially the reminder that clarity can matter more than breakthroughs

barbara ♡'s avatar

Thank you so much for this, it really means a lot. I’m glad the quieter side of growth resonated with you, that uneven, unglamorous part is usually where everything actually shifts. And welcome here, I’m really happy you found your way in. 🫶✨

The Other Ending's avatar

I love how you frame growth as clarity. Staying with something past the initial excitement feels like its own kind of courage, and this made that feel visible

barbara ♡'s avatar

Thank you for reading my words. 🫶🏻 You’re so right, staying after the spark fades really is its own quiet bravery. I’m glad that came through. :)

Hunaina🌚's avatar

I honestly love your energy, it exudes positivity and that’s why I am here.

The calmness you are able to instill through your words feels like a breath of fresh air.

This post is truly inspiring for creators like me because it indeed is not all about just numbers and stats, we need to remember that putting ourselves out there is in itself a big thing❤️❤️

barbara ♡'s avatar

This really means a lot, thank you!!🥹 I’m so glad the words feel calming and not pressurey, that’s exactly what I hope for here. And yes, showing up at all already counts for so much. I’m really happy you’re here ❤️

Swathi Maddirala's avatar

“Progress doesn’t disappear during quiet months — it just learns to breathe. Consistency includes living, too.”

Sam Holloway's avatar

I can always click on anything you've written to slow my pulse. You just have that way with words. Your performance is true to your commitment and you're building a REAL readership through REAL writing. No games, no wacky tactics, just real. Every time someone reads your work, just know that they walk away with a warm heart as if they've just had a heartfelt conversation with a good friend over steaming coffee. That's what you do for people.

barbara ♡'s avatar

Oh wow. 🥹This made me smile in the most real way. That’s exactly what I hope for when I write, just sitting in the kitchen, coffee or tea in hand, talking like a friend. Thank you for seeing that and for putting it into words. I’ll carry this with me Sam!🤍

A Little Bit Taller's avatar

I’m so glad I started are the same time as you. I’ve enjoyed watching your growth. I’m almost at 75 subs in the same amount of time and I feel overwhelmed.

Keep up the great work. I’ll be reading and watching.

barbara ♡'s avatar

That means so much to me, thank you! :) And 75 is huge, especially when you think about 75 people in one room, overwhelm totally makes sense. I’m really glad we’re doing this side by side. Cheering you on right back. ✨

Hannah Torkelson's avatar

I so appreciate you here! I love that you are taking your time, being thoughtful and intentional. I am so impressed with your growth!

barbara ♡'s avatar

Thank you so much, that really means a lot to me. I’m trying to let things grow at their own pace and enjoy it instead of rushing through. I’m really glad you’re here and noticing. ❤️

Kejal's avatar

This: ‘writing and social media require very different kinds of energy’ is SO true. Writing is cathartic and creative, the promoting feels tiresome and needy. I’m new(ish) to substack - still trying to get that balance where I feel like people read and find value from my work but without promoting it it feels wasted…

Barbara-Anne's avatar

Our instant gratification world is so loud and filled with distractions. That makes it hard to be still and listen to ourselves and our hearts. I sometimes think that stillness is actively discouraged. At the same time, we put ourselves under pressure to figure out "what we want to be when we grow up." Well, I'm in my 60s (how the heck did THAT happen?) and I still haven't figured out what I want to be IF I grow up. I've learned that it's okay to not have anything figured out. That it's okay to sus things out as you go through life. That it's okay to change your mind, reverse course, take a different path and do what makes you happy. That the more important question is not what do you want to be when you grow up but how do you want to BE in the world. Does that make sense?

Donald's avatar

New here and great article. It's nice to see more people who want freedom from the cold systems society has set up. My hope is that one day, people wont work to survive anymore. I like that more people are breaking free from the matrix. I wish you all the best.

marvin ginsberg's avatar

I am in the same exact spot.

I am a storyteller.

I have to get my stories out more.

I’m working on myself now, as a healer, as a storyteller.

My false self will go. My true self will remain.

My false self doesn’t exist.

It’s false